June 2, 2016

*Inner mentality*

If you're making slow progress towards your goals, it means you don't have enough meaning/motivation pushing you to make progress. Motive = A reason for doing something.

And WELL before you can think of what your motives are, you need to look at your personality.

Here's an exercise that really helped motivate me:

I looked through an old family album,

I noticed my family was able to have gatherings. My siblings were able to take time out of their lives to practice instruments. I noticed my parents had time to take me and my siblings places. I noticed I was able to live in a nice house for the majority of my lifetime, and we had spare time to spend carefree moments with my family. I noticed a picture where my family, extended family, and family friends went to a park. I realized I had went to that park 8 years ago. And my new goal is to take my new family there in the future :). I noticed a picture of my dog, who I loved to play with. However because he didn't have the title my dog, I never took better care of him, and he ended up dying. I generally don't support the idea off labels, because a negative label can be destructive to people. However a label can be a medium for love. For example, when you meet someone, and you like them so much and you ask them to be your girlfriend.

So, the lesson is: Let your multiple motivations move you.

I also have a technique called sycthe, and I thought of the factors that I want to excel at more than anyone else:

- study time
- calmness
- number of techniques
- best efforts and a flowing study pattern.

Just some of my recent thoughts.

Another question I have to ask you, the reader/candidate, when's the last time you shattered your best records? Everyone has a balance they keep themselves to. For example, If I'm studying hard, I generally reach 2 hours and then I take a break. Breaks are all good and dandy. But I'll ask myself (since I'm not really a preacher, and I try not to be a hypocrite): When's the last time I shattered my best study record? The question is mainly an absolute question, because I would assume most people reach their best once. So it should be a long time since you've shattered your best record. For myself I think it was during my bachelors degree program. I think I sat down in 64 positions back-to-back. And I haven't really reached that high for a while. It's good to talk it out. Start a blog people! :)

Alright. OH and here is some more of my wisdom/thoughts.

Here's a bit about me. And then why it's relevant to passing the CFE. As weird as it sounds I think it's important.

I'm generally anal about my teeth. I don't have dental insurance, so I always take really good care to brush my teeth. However recently, I've been slacking which is gross I know. But sometimes when you feel like you're able to, you take advantage of that slack and try to enjoy it. I didn't brush my teeth for like 2 days, because of this: cognitive dissonance. My mind does not want to start flossing or brushing or continue (I sometimes floss and fall asleep before I can brush). I really don't like brushing my teeth or bathing for that matter. But nobody really likes these tasks, they're sort of there because we have to. ANYWAYS the point is: Any negative feeling I have towards these repetitive tasks is cognitive dissonance.

But based on my motivations, and even my own admirations, I want to transform this weakness of mine.

I also love watching breakdancers. I've actually been breakdancing since the year 2000, so 16 years now. I digress. The point is I love watching breakdancers. And one thing about the best ones (in my and I would assume most people's opinion) is that they're extreme. They're either extremely strong, extremely flexible, extremely light, the key word is extreme. If real-life had super heroes; I think a breakdancer is very much similar to that.

And now the linkage, if I want to not only start but continue and push and push, you've got to embrace cognitive dissonance to an extreme level.

I'm going to study right now. But I don't want to actually do that. In fact, I'm going to study so hard, maybe I really won't want to continue studying. Okay, I might enjoy it a bit. But I'm pretty damn sure I'd much rather take a break, and watch something I like (e.g. Prince of Tennis (I'm also a big fan of anime)).